‘Fat Shaming’ and the Big Lie – Let’s Stop the Pain & Shame

First you need to understand that what you are being told by the mainstream media about why you gain weight is not the whole story (I will call this the ”Lie” from here-on in). Once you understand this I hope you will be motivated to look deeper into the truth …

Weight gain is a subject that seems to have many notions attached to it that are all too often judgemental, not at all compassionate, not fully informed and ultimately damaging for the people involved in the drama that comes with it. Too often I see the subject around ‘excess fat’ causing pain and suffering, often silent and insidious for those involved. It is through some personal realisations as well as what I have seen going on with some of my clients and friends over the years that I write this article to shed new light into the foundations of weight gain so that the world can develop a kinder, deeper and more compassionate understanding and so that a helpful attitude can be reached by the nation(s) as a whole giving people from both ‘sides of the fence’ and those caught in the crossfire more of a chance to heal and find happiness.

All the in-depth information as to the many reasons for the body resulting in ‘filling out’ a little is out there to be found if you are willing to find it. However, first you need to understand that what you are being told by the mainstream media is not the whole story (I will call this the ”Lie” from here-on in). Once you understand this I hope you will be motivated to look deeper into the truth. But not only that, you need to find the time to do it, know where to look and be in a responsive frame of mind to understand it. So here I make it easier for you to do just that – I have put it all in one place along with my own outlook and understanding on the subject so that you can figure out what is really going on under this deeply twisted Lie more easily.

It seems that, as I have already said, the easiest information to find on weight gain on the whole seems to be found in the ‘mainstream media’ which is rather biased towards excess weight being purely related to either one or both of two reasons – either that you eat too much of the wrong foods or you are obviously not taking enough exercise. These two reasons being focused on alone have created a very big money-making market and are strongly defended by biased industry sponsors who have perpetuated the Lie. And to make matters worse hand-in-hand with these two assumptions then comes the HUGE STIGMA that filters through into the minds of the masses (I shall relate to this from here-on in as “fat shaming” or the haters as “fat shamers”). Many people, adults and sadly children alike, are programmed by this Lie into thinking that when they set eyes on someone who is ‘overweight’, or if you are bigger yourself, more often than not respect is lost for that person or, if it is you, you lose self-respect (often unconsciously). Contempt sets in, which often becomes very deep. It is all too often assumed that the larger person is not looking after themselves, they apparently have no self-control, they are lazy and lack discipline, are ignorant, refuse to take responsibility for themselves, are wasting their life, fat people are not people or don’t deserve to be treated like people, they are gluttons, deserve to be bullied, are disgusting, unattractive, you would never consider going out with them because you couldn’t respect them, they are constantly underestimated, are not eating healthily, are sick more often, you will die young (not true), are fat slobs (lots of name throwing), are a tax burden (yes, apparently some people think that!) … and the list goes on. It’s all a load of TOXIC JUDGEMENTAL energy bouncing around, that in and of itself causes even more problems to society as a whole … and this toxic sludge is all based on a Lie.

bullies feel they have the right to get personal and point out that you are fat when it is none of their business … but what it does is make them feel better about themselves in what they have been led to believe is a ‘socially acceptable context’ …

These same people seem to hate, ridicule, bully and/or attack larger people, condemning them by calling it a lifestyle and a choice through sneering lips – they feel they have the right to get personal and point out that you are fat when it is none of their business … but what it does do is make them feel better about themselves in what they have been led to believe is a ‘socially acceptable context’. And all too often this behaviour along with their ignorance hides behind a face of concern for that persons well-being. They think ‘tough love’ works all the while alienating themselves from the one’s they supposedly love – there is no love in fat shaming.  Fat shaming is emotional abuse. Yet they continue to suggest fad diets and overly harsh exercise regimes through their concern for you shrouded by judgement … but what they do not realise is that these suggestions are only part of the foundations of well-being, and standing on their own only really make short-term differences, or worse they cause harmful yo-yo weight fluctuations or no weight loss at all. Taking action on these two limited suggestions are often just overly stressing the body physically which can wreak havoc with hormones eventually leading to and contributing to adrenal exhaustion. And did I stress enough that much guilt and shame is created around all this, be it unknowingly much of the time (shame right back at you fat shamers!) – all of which creates yet further massive stress in the individuals being targeted (for want of a better word) which in turn further adversely affects their emotional self, their hormones, compounding further weight gain and ultimately deeper health problems.  And all the while more often than not the ‘fat’ person is actually eating extremely healthily, getting plenty of exercise (often even running marathons) and taking extremely good care of themselves.  Many are perplexed as to why their body weight remains the same as it does.  And this is what this article is all about, so do read on …

First of all, before I write on I want  you to please remember as you read this that there is good news. There is much that you can do to heal your emotional self – and I say this because the condition of the emotional self plays probably the biggest part in this issue of weight gain; and I will also go into the emotional self of the ‘fat shamers’ too.  Let me explain …

We are all different and react to different things in different ways. Most of what happens in our life is in direct relation to the emotional environment around us and within us. I put it that way round because we are born into an environment that we can do little about at birth. The consciousness of the inner world comes later – and sometimes much later dependant on so many things. And much of this experience is dictated through the organisation of the ‘sounds of the spheres’ on our journey into consciousness. There are several methods to help understand this pattern, for instance through astrology, Kabbala, human design, the chakra system and gene keys to name a few. In this article I will briefly touch upon reference to astrology, human design and the chakra system. And for the sake of ease I shall start at birth to create an easy to follow explanation.

Your Personal Birth Pattern

We are brought into this world as a result of a union. This union itself will come in a ‘cocktail of flavours’ ranging from anything between a deep loving bond to a horrific rape – the emotional ‘flavours’ can vary vastly. I won’t go into this too much here but this ‘flavour’ is imprinted into the cells of the child and has an impact on that child’s overall well-being throughout life (have no fear this can be healed through soul work). The union of these two people also passes on what I will call here our ‘divine pattern’ but what many would call ‘genetic’ information (for the sake of the scientifically based person reading this), that can be traced through astrology very affectively. Within this divine pattern can be found the general state that this being will hold as a default throughout their lifetime, until they become conscious of it and do ‘the work’ to transmute and heal it where indicated thus setting a new default. This divine pattern contains within it a code indicating a collection of opportunities, gifts, challenges and difficulties as well as one’s ability to cope with and handle stress. And it is within this code you will find the first hints as to whether there may be weight gain too … so listen up fat shamers, it’s something can happen to anybody, even you!

As a few general examples, on the whole someone with strong Taurian, Cancer and/or Libran influences in their chart can be on the heavier side – sometimes Piscean too. Mars can have a detrimental effect on the mental and/or emotional state of being having an impact on confusion, mood swings, and explosive episodes – hence then affecting the hormones and overall balance of the organism as a whole including the weakness to weight gain (this may only show up later on in life where as earlier in life it could make them loose large amounts of weight). The journey of Jupiter can ignite various issues as it travels through one’s life and as an example can often cause weight gain as it reaches and travels through the first house, or as it touches other challenging aspects that causes an expansion of these issues.

This cycle of the planets creates the constant song within the Chakra’s during life, which are also adversely affected by ours or others judgements and thoughts forms often then bringing one or a number of them into imbalance – thus creating and adding to disharmony within the subject which leads to further stress (do you notice how often I am referring to stress?). This can easily be fixed as and when it occurs with knowledge of this system, but difficult to fix if you know nothing about it (the mainstream education system is certainly not helping with spreading this learning either) – and the accumulative effect of not fixing these fluctuations can often lead to weight gain at an early stage or even later on in life due to it accumulating over time – all of which can take quite some time to lose after the event often because so many issues imprinted in the system need to be released which can take time (after all, they were put there over a long period of time) – weight loss often being the last thing to go. And to top it all, sometimes that weight will not shift, because it is purely and simply the way you are ‘meant to be’ within the fractal of life at that precise moment in time.  So, the thing to remember here is: everything changes … so don’t get stuck on this!  The mere act of getting stuck on it can make you hold onto the weight too.

taking on too much on’ of other people’s stuff’ creates a disturbance in the energy body itself and if left unchecked can easily impact the adrenals and thyroid in a myriad of ways accumulatively leading to weight gain over time.  You can learn how to give yourself psychic protection and perform psychic surgery to help with this.

Within human design you can easily see how ‘open’ a person is which left in its unconscious form can easily cause an imbalance of ‘taking too much on’ of other people’s stuff which not only creates a disturbance in the energy body itself but as an example can also cause much defensiveness and/or fear which can easily impact the adrenals and thyroid in a myriad of ways accumulatively leading to weight gain (there are ways to combat this, refer to the end of the article).

Needless to say all these signs do not actually mean that these things will definitively have an impact on one’s weight … it all depends on the ‘cocktail’ as a whole – which makes it quite complex to be an ‘exact’ science, but it can show you a divine map to navigate and give you markers as to why you may have gained weight at a certain time in your life.

So, we’ve been given this divine pattern to work with at birth. Yet, certainly in the western world and becoming more prevalent in the east I sense, we pay no attention to it whatsoever and blindly go on as if we are some kind of machine (or zombie perhaps as so often depicted in the movies these days) that ‘should’ work in this way and that – do as it’s told basically. This control creates disharmony ultimately due to its insensitive nature to the subtleties of life, which left ignored will create illness within the body which means that you, fat shamers, become ill yourselves  – something that you are so quick to pass off onto the larger of our species.  Just because you are ‘thin’ does not automatically make you healthy.

If we are lucky we are born into an environment where this divine pattern is understood and nurtured, but many of us are not so lucky. Our environments over time can become more and more toxic and stressful (I’ll call this Toxic Stress from here on in) as we can be surrounded by fat shamers from an early age within the school playground and even ashamedly within the direct and/or distant family environment. We are even taught to be our own fat shamer from a very early age – which left unchecked can turn into a constant internal dialogue that rambles on and on, day in day out – affecting your self-esteem and confidence which then leads to further problems related to Toxic Stress often leading to depression, and then on to weight gain (some at this part of the journey think this weight gain is purely only because of the medication they may be on, but in fact this would actually often happen anyway due to the effect of adverse emotions on the body). And from observing what’s been going on both personally and in my practice over the years I can safely say that I have seen much disgust, guilt, shame, anger, self loathing and low self-esteem especially around body image which has been held by them for often years which is having a knock on effect on the body as a whole. And all this is exacerbated and grows through the virus ridden ‘mainstream media’ that continues to feed us The Lie then further drawing family members, friends and strangers into continuing with The Lie, thinking that they are right because it is what everyone else thinks.

Please don’t get be wrong here … eating healthy organic fresh foods and moderate daily exercise is definitely a part of the jigsaw for maintaining your size and shape in direct relationship to your bone structure – I will not deny it

Please don’t get be wrong here … eating healthy organic fresh foods and moderate daily exercise is definitely a part of the jigsaw for maintaining your size and shape in direct relationship to your bone structure – I will not deny it – but as you can already see this is by no means the be all and end of it all. And also, please bare in mind that often following a healthy diet and moderate exercise plan will not shift the excess weight because, as I have explained, it is about more than just that. It can be because of any one or a group of either of the things I have already mentioned … but it can also be because of an already exhausted adrenal and/thyroid function due to an already accumulated situation from the above that needs to be carefully put right before any further exercise is taken, as a further example.

So if you are looking at a person or yourself that you judge to be overweight, are you looking at them/yourself differently yet?

Quick Recap on alternative weight gain possibilities to the Lie:

• Imprint of union can adversely impact an individuals emotional self on an unconscious level.
• Divine Pattern (Genetics) showing a map that can indicate weight gain.
• Divine Pattern show’s one’s natural ability or difficulty for an individual to cope with Toxic Stress (can be learned), determining the health of one’s emotional self.
• The Lie causing much self-abuse and self punishment, adversely impacting the emotional self.
• Further stress and abuse increased in an individual by fat shamers external finger-pointing, jokes and/or judgements perpetuated by the Lie, again adversely impacting the emotional self (be it consciously or unconsciously).
• How being naturally ‘open’ unconsciously effects an individual without prior knowledge of such a system both emotionally and physically.
• Accumulative chakra imbalance affecting the energy body and physical body detrimentally.
•Overworking an already exhausted hormonal system will cause further weight gain and deeper health issues.

Is that it, or is there more … ?

Yes, there is more to consider. As you well know life is far more complex than just this. Not only does abuse around and about the actual fat shaming topic cause Toxic Stress … there are many relationships we have in our life (and in our past lives) that can either be harmonious or stressful – and as you may have gathered by now Toxic Stress (creating an imbalanced emotional self) is the major cause for the body to go out of balance. It is the stressful relationship’s that need to be looked in depth here. I have always ‘known’ this as have the ‘ancients’, yet medicine continues to turn a blind eye to this most important factor of all – but it has actually now been proven (for those of you who need proof of everything rather than knowing) by recent research carried out by Dr Candice Pert, The Federal Centres for Disease Control, as well as many others and more every day – that if you are a victim of emotional and/or physical abuse as a child that child will more often gain weight at a very young age or grow up to gain weight later on in life. For an official full explanation of child abuse please go to the Childhelp site here. But don’t forget this family abuse often continues into adulthood as generally all parties in a dysfunctional family system are so often totally unaware that it is going on because it is so much ‘the norm’ that they have grown accustomed to this behaviour and even ‘prop it up’ – and it may only be much later on in life that this abuse is understood let alone acknowledged – especially when dealing with the subtleties of emotional abuse.

recent research carried out by Dr Candice Pert, The Federal Centres for Disease Control, as well as many others and more every day – that if you are a victim of emotional and/or physical abuse as a child that child will more often gain weight at a very young age or grow up to gain weight later on in life.

If this child abuse is not healed at the time this further leads an individual into making choices in life based upon their own lack of self esteem and lack of self confidence that has grown over the years as a result of this abuse. Patterns are formed from a very early age into their behavioural reactions that often lead to adult choices that once helped them survive as children, but later lead to putting them in physical danger, often severe (and sometimes fatal), from an abusive partner (as an example) that will once again lead to Toxic Stress and (further) weight gain.

And I haven’t even touched on the topic of pollution in so many forms and how our food has become less nutritious in the last 50 years and how this can create weight gain … but this isn’t the place for that. I’ve barely even touched on the fact that when you put yourself on restrictive diets you are putting your system under toxic stress furthering the possibility of weight gain, if not immediately but more often than not accumulatively in later life. I haven’t even expanded much on the actual scientific facts of how the thyroid and adrenals work in direct correlation to Toxic Stress, thus bringing on weight gain and the metabolic problems that come with it that can take time to straighten out (I will write more about that in the future).  I haven’t brought up the fact the if you don’t get enough sleep you can put on weight … and staring at computer screens does nothing to help with this issue either – and whilst on that topic EMF’s flying around cause sleep and consciousness disturbance which interrupts healthy sleep patterns thus leading to further weight gain (does the word obesity epidemic pop into your head here?).   Nor have I touched upon food allergies and intolerances.  And I haven’t even mentioned bullying in the workplace or dare I say it bullying by teachers/school masters or people in authority who ‘should’ know better.  And I haven’t even touched on the topic of people loosing too much weight for their bone structure and why … there’s another time for that.   I will however expand on many of these topics at a later date on my blog (and if you come back here to read it again this section will have direct links to articles I have written on said subjects).  This article is centred around bringing into more awareness the emotional side of this particular topic – one that is all too often ‘swept under the carpet’ because it would mean that you really have to look at yourself properly and make big changes – fat shamers, fat bigots, fat and abuse victims alike.

Needless to say all these signs do not actually mean that these things will definitively have an impact on one’s weight … it all depends on the ‘cocktail’ as a whole – which makes it quite complex to be an ‘exact’ science, but it can show you a divine map to navigate and give you markers as to why you may have gained weight at a certain time in your life

What to do about it?

As I said earlier, there is good news – take a good look at your emotional self (and this applies to fat victims, fat shamers and fat bigots alike).

• It is possible to learn how to be happier and kinder to yourself by looking at and understanding your divine pattern, getting to know yourself really well with an honesty and integrity that you may well not be used to – and you can learn to stop taking responsibility for everything, blaming and/or paining yourself for everything that has been happening to you and the way you look.  This applies to ‘fat shamers’ too – just take a look at what’s being going on from another perspective and you’ll understand that you are projecting much of your pain and/or regrets onto others – looking in more depth into what is going on in and around your birth and energy body will help you as well as those around you too.
• You can learn how to let go of all that you are holding onto thus releasing you to your optimum health and happiness through acceptance that you are a person worthy of love both of self and from others.
• You can learn how to read, balance, manage and maintain your chakra system which goes a long way to restoring your well being and emotional self.  Also, often (but now always) for those who have gained weight I have found that an imbalance in your chakra system can cause you to be hungry all the time or to be attracted to foods that may not be doing you any good in an effort to ground you back down to earth – so these techniques alone can be an invaluable helping tool if you are finding constant uncontrollable hunger happening to you.  And for those of you who are ‘fat shamers’ an imbalance in your chakra system can cause you into ‘lashing out’ and ‘being judgemental’ so learning how to manage this system will balance your behaviour; but really only if you are open to making changes.  Scepticism or unwillingness to change just reverts any energy work undertaken back to where you started (back to your underlying beliefs).
• You can learn how to give yourself psychic protection and perform psychic surgery to help you from ‘taking on too much’ of what is not yours which will assist you in being balanced and eventual weight loss if and when the time is right.  Leaving the aura too ‘open’ for long periods of time can in and of itself cause adrenal exhaustion leading to weight gain so these techniques will help you to set ‘unseen’ boundaries that will ultimately help your energy body protect itself from further damage, giving it time to heal from within.  This will also help you to re-establish broken down boundaries within your relationships.
• This work will help you to make healthier decisions and appropriate changes in your life if, as and where necessary.
• This will often entail learning to say ‘no’ and working on chord cutting from relationships that may be causing you much trouble from psychic coercion.  This does not always work and may mean that you will have to work on your core strength so that you can move you away from those who abuse you who are not willing or able to change their behaviour towards you at this time – it can be too draining to keep the contact because if you held on you will more than likely continue to hold onto the weight due of the adverse emotional issues attached to this constant bullying (this part really isn’t all about the extra weight here, you do deserve to be happy).  And anyone who argues with this separation probably has their own emotional issues to deal with themselves – so do take a look at your emotional well-being too (you are often knowingly or not the bullier and have often learned your behaviour from being bullied yourself).   And sometimes the one’s being bullied are confused and it takes time for them to even see, let alone accept that they are being abused even applies in their lives.  Those of you who are free of it will understand that bullying is damaging, not loving.
• ‘Fat shamers’, take this on board and do ‘the work’ on yourselves by looking deeply at your own regrets and humiliations that are driving you to bully others – helping you to drop your ‘walls’ from around you that are hardening you to the fact that your behaviour is hurting others … with the aim so that people do not feel that they need to move away from you.
• Check that the foods you are eating agree with your system, and check it often.  We can develop food intolerance alongside emotional problems, I’ve noticed they seem to come hand in hand.  The easiest, quickest and most convenient way to do this is by dousing your food, either with a pendulum or by using your body (more on this later).
• If you have not already and can afford it get yourself onto organic food immediately.

And as another way to help those in pain, please do pass this around. I hope that these insights will help to dissipate the ‘blame, prejudiced, fat discrimination culture around this topic by bringing into awareness the depth of information required about the truth of weight gain (whilst not going too far the other way) – which in turn will grow compassion and help to heal the damage of both individuals and collectively. Help spread the news that this fat shaming business must stop as this shaming is not based on solid foundations – people’s disregard for the truth must change. Help to build a world of understanding – that’ll go a long way in starting the healing this planet, and all of us on her, now needs.

We are all the beautiful souls underneath with beautiful beating hearts – so let’s treat ourselves and others how you like to be treated. You rock!